Commitment in the New Year, Not Difficult To Achieve Simple Rules
If one of your resolutions for the New Year is finding, or improving, the relationship you can make, it’s probably easier than you think. Commitment in the new year, or at any time, is not too difficult to achieve but you must follow some simple rules if you want to succeed.
Commitment in the new year will arrive at one fundamental point: are you absolutely sure that you want to make a commitment with a particular person?
Obviously, I know. But do you know how many people really ignore this simple rule? So many people think they want to be in a committed relationship, but in many cases it’s not about them and what they want, it’s more about what they think they should do. Commitment in the New Year, Not Difficult To Achieve Simple Rules
For example, when we arrive at a certain age we are under pressure to “settle down”. Pressures can sometimes come from our parents, our friends and even the public.
It is easy to confuse the pressure with our own wants and needs. Often people will lie to themselves and convince themselves that yes, they really want to be calm when in fact they do not want to but they feel guilty and feel doing something wrong.
When you do something, quite a lot of things, just because you think you should, even if you do not really want it, you just make yourself fail.
Before you begin down the path of “commitment”, stop and take a deep breath and make sure it’s really what you want to do. Commitment in the New Year, Not Difficult To Achieve Simple Rules
While compromise is an essential ingredient for any successful relationship, whether romantic or not, it is not something that needs to be compromised.
If you really are not where you want to be in a committed relationship but you follow it because that’s what your spouse wants or you feel pressured to do, you will fail.
A committed relationship can be a challenge in the best of times and if it is something you do not even want, it will be much harder to keep that promise and truly committed to that relationship. Commitment in the New Year, Not Difficult To Achieve Simple Rules
Another thing to keep in mind is that too many people will tell you that “relationships need work” or “relationships are difficult”. How many times have you heard from someone?
Well, I think it’s wrong. I have been in good and bad relationships and I can tell you that when you are in a good relationship, there really is no job at all. There is little need for compromise because both of you will see many things.
If you need a compromise, it’s a real compromise where you both give a little. Not what people call compromise is when only one person does the giving and the other does most of the taking.
Make sure before you promise to bring the relationship to the next level that you really are in a relationship with the best person for you.
Increasing your commitment in the new year can help you and your spouse discover true happiness and deepen the bond between you. Do not go in there blindly or you may really regret it with time.